“You’re so slow.”
“You’re getting fat.”
” Why aren’t you making any progress?”
These are hurtful things that I would never say to someone so why would I say that to myself. I have a history (and still do…) with depression so negative thoughts about myself is not something that is new to me. However, recently, it has been getting more and more difficult to quiet that voice inside me down.
Negative thoughts can be a dangerous things as sometimes it gets to the point of you actually believing what those negative thoughts are saving and your self worth takes a hit. So why am I telling you all of this? Well one, I find that sharing what’s happening helps keeps my thoughts in check and two, I’m hoping that if anyone else plagued by these thoughts is struggle, will know that they are not alone.
So how am I working on this?
Asking myself why
Why am I saying these things to myself? Would I say this to my best friend? Why can’t I give myself a pat on the back instead. Is there a reason why I think I suck? Is it because I ran slowly? If so, why can’t I give myself a break? Not all runs will be fast. It’s little steps like these, asking myself why to find the root cause and then a solution, should be able to help me shut that down.
Putting it in perspective
Why did I say I suck? Is it because I didn’t run at a certain pace? Was I unable to lift a certain amount? Well, is this really going to matter in the long run? Will one bad session mean that in five, ten, twenty years, I’ll look back to that one moment and go ah-ha, it was that day.
When I have negative thoughts such as “you’re getting fat,” I’ll think of goals setting. Why do I think I’m getting fat. Am I snacking too much? Am I working out less? Well, that can be changed to setting goals instead such as snacking less between meals.
QOTD: How do you combat negative self talk?
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